If You Don't Have Something Nice To Say, Write It In An Obituary
It appears Dolores Aguilar wasn't exactly the most popular person in her family. The 79-year-old mother of 9 and grandmother or great-grandmother to 40 passed away earlier this month. Her obituary, written by one of her daughters, was published in the Vallejo Times-Herald.
Dolores Aguilar 1929 - Aug. 7, 2008
Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.
She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.
Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.
There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
Dolores Aguilar 1929 - Aug. 7, 2008
Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.
She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.
Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.
There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
WOW, WHAT A SAD WOMAN, IF SOMEONE CANNOT EVEN FIND IT IN THEIR HEART TO FIND ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, PERHAPS, MOM HAS GIVEN SOMETHING TO HER THAT SHE DIDNT REALIZE SHE RECEIVED......... A COLD HEART. I CAN UNDERSTAND, BUT ALWAYS BE A BETTER PART AND NOT FORGET, BUT FORGIVE. IF NOTHING ELSE GET TOGETHER FOR A NEW BEGINNING, AND SAYING GOODBYE TO THE POOR SOUL WHOSE SOUL WAS POISONED WITH SADNESS.
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Bingo Elise! You hit the nail on the head!
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Oh~ Sorry, My bad! I spelled your name wrong! Man, I wish there was an edit button around here!
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That is one hated woman. I would hate to think that someone would right that about me at the end of my life. Surely it wasn't all bad.
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wow.
just wow.
I totally Agree with Elsie - and I just can't...well, nevermind.
wow.
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UMMMM THOSE OF YOU WHO KNOW ME.....THIS WILL PROBABLY BE ME WHEN MY "EGG DONAR" DIES. SO I HOPE THEY DONT PUT ME INCHARGE OF THE OBIT. I FEEL THIS GIRLS PAIN. I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT SHE IS FEELING AND SAYING. PPL ENJOY BEING MISERABLE. AND I AM GLAD TO SEE THAT THE SIBLINGS DIDNT FOLLOW IN THAT CYCLE. MAYBE THEY CAN HAVE PEACE. THEY SHOULD PRAY THAT GOD WILL RECIEVE THIS WOMAN. I AM SURE HE WILL AND NOW THAT SHE HAS PASSED.....I HOPE SHE SEES THE HURT AND PAIN THAT SHE HAS INFLICTED ON HER FAMILY. THEY NEED TO FORGIVE HER AND MOVE ON. I WILL PRAY FOR THIS FAMILY
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